Twisted wise words

People say, a true friend is someone who'll be there for you in the time of sadness, when you're down. Lots of people will laugh with you willingly when you are happy and successful, but few will cry with you in your darkest time.

Is it true?

If it was true, why did i feel the opposite? It's not always, but it does happened.

When i was sad, troubled, and when my life was filled with problems, many of my friends would give their sympathy, try almost everything to cheer me up, and say they would be there for me, if i needed them. And i was really glad for that.

But, funny, when i was happy, glowing, and have lots of happiness to tell them, seems like they werent there. Sometimes, it's harder for me to find friends to share my happiness than to share my burden with. Sometimes, it's harder to find people who are really willing to laugh (the pure laugh and happiness) with you, and be happy for you. Call me sceptic, cynical, or else, i just wrote down what i felt.

Seems like everyone's too busy with their own problems, or taking care of those who are troubled, so then they dont have time for those who are glowing with happiness. Probably they thought, they are happy already, so they wont need others to cheer them up. True, but those who are happy still need their friends to share their happiness with. Dont they?

Sometimes, it's easier to cry with the troubled ones, than to laugh with the successful ones. Because, some part of our egoistic self feel grateful somehow knowing that there is somebody else who is more miserable than us, which has a lot more difficult life than our own.

On the other side, it's not that easy to laugh and to be happy with those who are having their successful moments, or accomplished their goals. Because, somehow, other's accomplishment could remind us of our own failures, and it could make us even more miserable.

Life is funny somehow. I think every theory works both ways.

Well, it's just my thought. Im not judging anyone (forgive me if anyone feel offended).

It's just my way to rationalize in order to accept this (what i called) twisted wise words.

What do you think?

Here comes again, The Wedding Month!

Time does flies so fast. It's been almost a year since this post, and now here comes again this october-wedding-month.

Just like last year, i have received several wedding invitations, and i have an almost full schedule for every weekend this october. So far, luckily, i havent received double invitation (different wedding, different couple, but on the same day). Let's see how many wedding which i got invited this year, so far, i have known 8 couples are getting married, and it's just on the beginning of this month. tsk.

I wonder, why people choose these month (october, november) to get married? What's so special with these month? Anyone can explain this to me, please?

And talking (writing) about wedding date, i wonder why people choose certain date (which they called good number and good date), to get married? Im not talking about certain date which is "good" from feng shui or certain beliefs, im talking about a "nice" and "easy to remember" date, like 10-10-2010 for the example. Maybe it would be easy to remember, but on the other side, there must be so many weddings on that date, and that means, not all of their guest would be able to come, because they might have others invitation too. More possible wedding invitations means less guests, and less guests means less income, right? haha. If i was the host, i think i prefer any ordinary date, and almost my guests would be able to come (and share the happiness with me) to a special date which less guests would be able to come. Anyhow, Im just wondering, it's their big day and they can do anything they want, because they are the king and queen for that day :)

Well, congratulations for all of you who get married on this special month! Wishing all the best for your new stage of life :)

*cheers